Sometimes change arrives unwelcomed. 

Maybe a cherished relationship or job comes to an undesired end. Maybe you’re forced to leave a beloved home for professional, financial, or personal reasons. Maybe you encounter challenging physical changes due to the natural aging process, or to health problems.

Other times, your fear or resistance causes you to avoid making changes that would benefit you. 

Maybe you know deep down that you need to end that dysfunctional relationship or unsatisfying job, or move to a new city or country to pursue a better quality of life, or change a way of thinking, behaving, or communicating that is harming yourself or your relationships with others, but you can’t bring yourself to take the necessary steps. 

Or maybe you’re in a perpetual state of flight.

Maybe you compulsively pursue change not out of a sense of adventure, but because nothing you do is ever quite good enough to satisfy your (or someone else's) impossibly high standards, or because you are avoiding confronting difficult feelings or processing unaddressed trauma or loss.

Change is an essential aspect of the human condition. It's an inevitable part of life, whether you embrace it voluntarily or avoid it like the plague. Resisting the inevitable won't bring you happiness, nor will resigning yourself to a miserable situation, and running endlessly in search of more and better will eventually drain you.

What, then, are your options? To transform your perspective on change - your feelings about and reactions to it - so that you neither run from it, chase it endlessly, nor merely learn to tolerate it, but instead courageously accept and use it appropriately as a tool for ushering more satisfaction, adventure, and joy into your life.